Not in my plans!!

Well today I am on one of the “what grinds my gears” topics.   Forcing the care of your parents when you get older and are trying to have a family and make a life for yourself.  Now you’re stuck with some wrinkled crazed lunatic making demands on you that they didn’t have the forethought to handle when they were young.  The choice should be that of the child/caregiver as to whether they should have to take on this burden. And yes it’s a fucking burden to take on your parents when they could have given 2 shits less to prepare for their own future.   Some parents have spent all of their lives professionally manipulating people    (mainly their children) into doing their bidding. Many of our parents successfully carry this out in such a way as to not have to part with any gratitude what-so-ever. These old parents have  nothing to give but orders and sucking the living matter from your soul.  So everyone of us know we are getting older and will someday not be able to do things that we can do now.  So get with the freakin program and make provisions for your future, you old feet shuffling, bitter old hag.  Don’t use your age to emotionally blackmail your kids into caring for you.  Dear bejeezus you have been on your freakin death bed for the last 30 years acting all feeble and shit.  How is it that every freakin time your kids come around there is some woe is me and here is my ailment for today.  In the US forced marriages are frowned upon by society but forcing children to care for their parents, who didn’t give a shit about their kids in the first place to save for their own care as they aged, seems to be normal.  It also affords the old battle axes a cheap solution for their elderly care.  Oh and heaven forbid you ask for money from your parents  for caring for them, you will get a barrage of insults and how much you owe them for the choice they made of bringing you into this world.  See it goes something like this, early in life anything you take from your parents automatically entered you into an invisible job description that had no boundaries or time . As the next of kin you will find yourself in an impossible situation where it is assumed that you have a duty of care to look after your parents. It is a constant battle to maintain any control over your own life. I completely understand when I hear adults make this statement “ I have grown to hate my parent/s.”  You see we are groomed into caring for them as children and to never be able to escape from them or their expected demands. They will manage to present a perfect image to the world that makes them look like the WALKING WOUNDED and you look like an ungrateful child. Poor planning on another person's part, does not constitute an emergency on mine. Even if the poor planner is my own father and mother.  Stop making your daughters feel terrible because they don’t spend every waking fucking moment and holiday with you because God forbid she should ever have a life or get married and have her own children to have to tend to. And another thing, stop with this fuckin saying “ a son is a son until he takes a wife” well no fucking shit Sherlock.  He has his own family now just like you did. Quit acting like, oh I gave you life so you owe me for eternity.  I wouldn't want my children to help me in the bathroom and clean up my accidents. I wouldn't dream of it. I wouldn't dream of moving into their homes and disgusting their children with my vile accidents, drool and nuttiness. I'd much rather be placed somewhere and let them enjoy their lives!  Im sure this is going to piss a bunch of people off but many can relate and don’t want to admit it out of guilt.  I look at it this way, all that Medicare and Social Security you are getting without having any savings to cushion it, while you helped dry it up for the adults working their asses off today so they wont have it, use that for all you ailments and bitchiness. I gotta work!